The transfer happened on Wednesday and it took me a full 48 hours to process the whole experience. I am still amazed the whole process works at all. I went in all optimistic and left filled with awe and anxiety. It began with a phone call that morning before we even got to the clinic. Our Dr. told us that the CGH test results were back and for someone of my age and history we could expect a 30% normal rate. Unfortunately for us we weren’t above average at all (like in the egg retrieval). Instead we only got two. Getting only 20% was a big shock, but granted way better than 0%. I was both thrilled to have some normal and crushed that we didn’t have any more than two after what sounded like such a high yield.
One of the reasons I wanted to do IVF to begin with is the whole concept of “banking” embryos. For me it was a huge selling point. As my eggs and I speed towards 40 and my clock ticks away I had hoped that I could have this safety net of frozen embryos in the bank. Even if we didn’t need them it just would have been piece of mind. It sounds greedy to even say this, but I was hoping for a future chance for a sibling. Instead I feel the opposite. If this doesn’t work we have to start from scratch and that’s it or if it does work my next chance to make embryos will be when I’m 40. I am not the superstar embryo creator I thought I was after all. And while I have hope to one day have a baby one way or another, I feel the door to have a sibling is even more remote. I started the process back when I was 34 thinking we’d have one and then we’d see about a second. Maybe an only child will be fine, but I just wanted the choice and it pains me to see that slip away.
On the flip side, maybe I saved myself from 8 miscarriages, right? If eight fertilized and were abnormal that’s what would have happened naturally. So the silver lining is maybe I dodged some more bullets which alone would make this whole process worth it. Given my last pregnancy was chromosomally normal, we know it takes more than that to survive in my uterus.
So as I wait I keep thinking of all the hurdles ahead. What are the chances this works at all? If it does work, what is the chance it or they will last? I’ve already lost at least one chromosomally normal embryo, so why would these be any different? Beta news will be in one week. It will be hard to think about anything else in the meantime.
In the meantime life is feeling back to normal after acting like a china doll for three days. My 1 day bedrest and 2 days of minimal activity end today but I think I am still going to be paranoid about lifting things or moving too quickly.
On a happy note- We got our first call from the kitten adoption wait list today, so hopefully we will be able to add to our family that way. I am so ready for new kittens!